I feel this so hard Ayu, and am grateful for you taking the time to write about it. I literally have a pretty large substack draft about breastfeeding theology but it’s hard to find the words for this immense and exhausting and ineffable experience.
To answer your question, I’m really grateful that my partner makes me tea and breakfast pretty much every morning and is expanding his cooking repertoire more and more. I’ve always been a kitchen dom in our relationship so I haven’t given him much space to learn how to cook for my pleasure until now and I wish I had done so earlier. Being fed by others while feeding the baby is huge.
I also really admire people breastfeeding in public and I always thought I would but I’m so uncomfortable doing it. I think both due to hyper vigilance around the malegaze and that it’s just such an intimate thing to share with my baby. I want intimate private softly cushioned places just for breastfeeding everywhere in this country stocked with snacks and coconut water and kind other mothers who encourage one another.
Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment! I love that your partner is actively supporting you by doing more cooking 🥹 having someone else manage chores like that is truly so helpful.
And I totally agree... At our first pediatric appt, I saw a woman walking while breastfeeding her baby on her way to the clinic and I thought she was so cool. I thought maybe one day that’d be me, but lmao absolutely not. If we had more societal support via dedicated space like you mentioned, then hell yeah. But I just can’t see myself feeling that comfortable to whip out the nip so effortlessly.
I know it will probably take you awhile to process how you feel about this magical weird thing we do, but selfishly I hope you end up publishing something about it because I’d love to know your thoughts!
I feel this so hard Ayu, and am grateful for you taking the time to write about it. I literally have a pretty large substack draft about breastfeeding theology but it’s hard to find the words for this immense and exhausting and ineffable experience.
To answer your question, I’m really grateful that my partner makes me tea and breakfast pretty much every morning and is expanding his cooking repertoire more and more. I’ve always been a kitchen dom in our relationship so I haven’t given him much space to learn how to cook for my pleasure until now and I wish I had done so earlier. Being fed by others while feeding the baby is huge.
I also really admire people breastfeeding in public and I always thought I would but I’m so uncomfortable doing it. I think both due to hyper vigilance around the malegaze and that it’s just such an intimate thing to share with my baby. I want intimate private softly cushioned places just for breastfeeding everywhere in this country stocked with snacks and coconut water and kind other mothers who encourage one another.
Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment! I love that your partner is actively supporting you by doing more cooking 🥹 having someone else manage chores like that is truly so helpful.
And I totally agree... At our first pediatric appt, I saw a woman walking while breastfeeding her baby on her way to the clinic and I thought she was so cool. I thought maybe one day that’d be me, but lmao absolutely not. If we had more societal support via dedicated space like you mentioned, then hell yeah. But I just can’t see myself feeling that comfortable to whip out the nip so effortlessly.
I know it will probably take you awhile to process how you feel about this magical weird thing we do, but selfishly I hope you end up publishing something about it because I’d love to know your thoughts!